Knowledge is power but character is more

My dear Daughter, 

Knowledge is power but character is more.

If you are real smart, you won’t say and tell the world ”I am smart”, instead you will say ”I need to learn more”, be humble and kind-hearted. Stay down to earth but firm in your achievements.

If you are right, don’t judge and teach others how to behave or how to live their life, tolerate and respect others. Show respect even to people who don’t deserve it, not as reflection of their character but as a reflection of yours.

If you are wrong, apologize and admit it, heads up and learn from your mistakes, be brave and sincere. To have a big heart showed your greatest quality. 

If you don’t do what others have accused you, don’t be defensive or say something bad, it only shows your level of dignity, be a person with attitude and class. You may want to fight back, but don’t prove your unjust characterizations or false accusation by quick response. Allow the anger to subside, keep calm and control your emotion.

Don’t overbearing of everything you have, instead be delighted and grateful for what you’ve accomplished. Everything you have in this world is not completely yours. 

Be proud, but not arrogant.

Be encourage, but not envious.

Be inspired, but do not copy.

Be influenced, but do not steal.

I ain’t better than anybody. I ain’t say I’m always right. The truth, I’ve learned so much from you since the very beginning you were in my womb. Learn something good and throw everything bad from me. I’m not a perfect mother, but I promise I will try my best to be a good example for you.

To Do list into a What Matters Most List

“Turn your To Do list into a What Matters Most List.” – Karen Salmansohn

We often take action with the aim to accomplish our To Do List. That is very human. Everyday we wake up to face a list of To Do Things, study, works, appointments, etc. This list is actually lead into something, to gain what matters in your life. Your goal is to graduate on time, you have the list how to study hard, to finish your assignments, to pass the exam, etc. Your goal is to achieve the top position in carrier you’ve always wanted, you have the list how to be the best at work among colleagues, to show your boss how valuable you are to the company, etc. Or whatever goal you have, will be followed by To do List.

It’s kind of hard to get motivated and actually take action from the list, takes every courage and first step to move. Like it said ”First step is always hard”. But we can start to change those To Do List become What Matters Most List. To think that the list we should do is the most matters in our life , change our perspective and point of view.

Seorang Wanita di Halte Bus

“Aku tidak ingin kaya. Aku hanya ingin hidup. Aku ingin melihat banyak tempat. Aku ingin mendengar banyak suara. Aku ingin menghirup seribu satu bau kehidupan. Alangkah mengerikannya terpenjara di satu tempat. Alangkah menjemukannya. Alangkah memuakkan. Aku mesti pindah tempat setiap saat, meski cuma selangkah.”

(Seno Gumira Ajidarma)

Anak

Dan seorang perempuan yang menggendong bayi dalam dekapan dadanya berkata; Bicaralah pada kami perihal Anak.

Dan dia berkata:

Anakmu bukanlah anakmu
Mereka putra-putri kehidupan yang rindu akan dirinya sendiri
Mereka datang melalui engkau tapi bukan dari engkau
Dan walau mereka ada bersamamu tapi mereka bukan kepunyaanmu

Kau dapat memberi mereka cinta-kasihmu tapi tidak pikiranmu
Sebab mereka memiliki pikirannya sendiri
Kau bisa merumahkan tubuhnya tapi tidak jiwanya
Sebab jiwa mereka bermukim di rumah masa depan, yang tiada dapat kausambangi, bahkan tidak dalam impian-impianmu

Kau boleh berusaha menjadi seumpama mereka, tapi jangan berusaha membuat mereka seperti dirimu
Sebab kehidupan tiada surut ke belakang, pun tiada tinggal bersama hari kemarin
Engkaulah busur dan anak-anakmulah anak panah yang meluncur

Sang Pemanah membidik tanda sasaran di atas jalan nan tiada terhingga, dan Dia menekukkan engkau dengan kekuasaan-Nya agar anak panah-Nya dapat melesat cepat dan jauh

Meliuklah dengan riang di tangan Sang Pemanah

Sebab sebagaimana Dia mengasihi anak panah yang melesat, demikian pula Dia mengasihi busur nan mantap

(Kahlil Gibran)

Don’t Quit

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will. When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill. When the funds are low and the debts are high. And you want to smile, but you have to sigh. When care is pressing you down a bit. Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns. As every one of us sometimes learns. And many a failure turns about. When he might have won had he stuck it out. Don’t give up though the pace seems slow. You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than. It seems to a faint and faltering man. Often the struggler has given up. When he might have captured the victor’s cup. And he learned too late when the night slipped down. How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out. The silver tint of the clouds of doubt. And you never can tell how close you are. It may be near when it seems so far. So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit. It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

If you’re going to fall in love with me

If you are going to fall in love with me, it’s only fair that you know what you are falling in love with. You are falling in love with my insecurities, and my obsession with trying to figure out what everyone thinks of me. You are falling in love with my immaturity, my constant need to feel loved and appreciated, my overactive tear ducts, my internet obsession, and my tendency to jump to conclusions. You fall in love with my troubled past, my unrealistic hopes and dreams, and the fact that I seriously believe they could come true. You fall in love with my wild temper, my illogical thought process, and how I’m a hopeless romantic at heart, despite my feminist views.

If you fall in love with me, you fall in love with my self-hate, all my imperfections, and my perception that nobody could ever love me. You fall in love with the history that has caused me to think this way. But you are also falling in love with the way my eyes will smile when I’m with you, the way I’ll text you in the mornings just to tell you I hope you have a great day, and at night, to wish you sweet dreams. You’re falling in love with the occasionally thought-provoking things I say, and the silly things I do in an attempt to see you smile. You are falling in love with the way I blush when people ask me about you, and how I’ll hold your hand, even if we’re fighting. But to me, the most important thing will be that you are falling in love with me.

If you’re going to fall in love with me, don’t fall in love with my Sunday best, don’t fall in love with the way I look after spending hours getting ready, or my fakest smile or freshly done hair. Fall in love with my body, the way it widens quite a lot around my hips, and how I will never have that perfect figure, and how I honestly don’t really care.

Fall in love with my impatience, my jealous, moods, and the times that I don’t feel anything at all. And fall in love with how sometimes I act like a child, whilst other times I can be the most mature. Fall in love with my scars, my marks, and all the things that makes me far less than perfect And fall in love with every part of me, both good and bad, and especially with all that I consider a flaw. Fall in love with me as a whole or don’t fall in love with me at all.

Teman Hidup

So you too met and feel in love and resolved to spend your lives together. But at what level? Just short of living together, going through the days, not really connecting, isn’t good enough. You have to have passion for your life together. Your partner isn’t just there for someone to chat to when you get a bit fed up and want some company. Being together has to be a strong bond, a common sharing experience, a dream-fulfilling romance that carries you both along. You have to make the effort. You have to stay awake, in touch, in tune. You have to share dreams and goals and ambitions and plans. You have to have passion for being with each other. You are dedicating your life to someone else’s happiness in a way, and that requires focus, strength, passion, drive, enthusiasm, and effort. You have to really care, to still be in love, to want your partner to be fulfilled, successful, happy, complete.

(Rules #59, The Rules Of Life – Richard Templar)

Teman Hidup

 

Rule #27

Choose how you make your bed

Every action you take, every decision you make, everything you do causes an immediate effect on those around you – and on you. And this is the important bit. There is such a thing as instant karma. It is your bed and you are going to have to lie in it. Your action will dictate whether in general your life is going to run happily or badly, smoothly or as if the wheels have fallen off. If you are selfish and manipulative it will rebound on you. If you are generally loving and thoughtful you will get your just reward – and not in heaven (or the next life or whatever you believe) but right here, right now. So be careful how you make your bed. What goes around, comes around. Do the right thing, every time. You know what it is.

(Richard Templar – The Rules Of Life)

Rule #68

Never be too busy for loved ones.

It is very easy in the rush of living to overlook people close to us. I have people who are very special, very close to me and I forget to phone, forget to stay in touch. Not because I don’t care but because I am too busy. Unforgivable. Every now and then I’ll complain that I haven’t heard from him/her. But of course it is me not staying in touch just as much as it is. We have to make time, because if we don’t, time slips past so fast that a few days become weeks, and then months, and then years are added on before we know it.

No matter how busy your life is, you have to make time. You have to make quality time for all those around you to whom you make a difference. Those that love you get repaid in time – it’s a fair exchange. They love you and you give them something of yourself, something precious. Your time and your attention. And you do this willingly, not as a chore. You do this with dedication and commitment and wholehearted enthusiasm. There is no point spending quality time with your loved ones, for example, and using that time to catch up on work or read the paper. You have to be there entirely for him/her or they’ll know your attention is elsewhere and they’ll feel cheated. One day, he/she might not be there – and then you will so desperately wish you’d actually listened. But then it’ll be too late. So make time for the people who matter – today.

(Richard Templar – The Rules of Life)